A few weeks ago I started a list called “things I wish I had known earlier” in my journal.

I initially came up with 15 lessons about life, love, and relationships.

Here’s the latest edition. I hope you find it useful.

1. Don’t Listen To “No”
The best things in life only happened after people heard “no.” Did they quit? No.

2. Keep A Journal
No, keeping a journal is not for children. It helps you to become a better thinker and writer. “I don’t want to be a writer” you might think. Well, how many emails and texts do you send a day? Everybody is a writer.

3. Don’t Start A Relationship If You’re Not In Love
I’ve done this more than once. You kind of like someone and think: “We might as well give it a shot.” Not a good idea. You’re either in love, or you are not. Don’t fool yourself. It’s not fair to you and the other person.

4. Exercise Daily
A healthy body is where you have to start everything in life. If you can’t build a healthy and strong body, what can you build in life?

5. Be Grateful
Say ‘thank you’ to everyone and everything. “Thank you for this beautiful day.” “Thank you for your email.” “Thank you for being there for me.”

6. Don’t Care About What People Think
We all die in the end, do you really think it matters what people think of you?

7. Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable
Life, work, relationships, challenges. It’s all uncomfortable. So get comfortable with that.

8. Value Yourself
“Who am I to say something?” Well, you’re a human being who wakes up every morning and contributes something to this world. You have the right to say and do anything you want. Recognize that.

9. There’s No End Game
We, as a species, just are. Don’t try to figure it all out. Enjoy your journey.

10. Enjoy Small Things
I like clichés because they are true. Especially this one. You know why? Everyone says they know it, but no one lives up to it. They just chase big things.

11. Don’t Take Yourself Seriously
Yeah, yeah, you’re an individual, and people have to take you seriously, I get it. But at the end of the day, we’re all a bunch of ants trying to chase the same things. Lighten up.

13. Never Look Back Too Long
Reflecting on the past is only good for one thing: Learning.

13. It’s Okay To Be Sad
Life’s not always great. We all know that. But why do we pretend we’re okay while we’re not? Because we’re too proud. If you’re not doing well, admit it. Now, you can work on getting better.

14. Avoid Negative Situations And People
You can’t underestimate the impact others have on you. Get away from negativity at all cost.

15. Rely On Yourself 
Because it’s the best feeling in the world to know you can figure things out by yourself. But don’t overdo it. Ask for help when you need it.